Sadly, one of the most popular search terms new mums use to find me on Google is related to feeling like a bad mum. It breaks my heart every time I see it in my analytics, but it also motivates me to keep sharing useful content. I don’t want anyone to feel like they’re failing. […]
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Journaling & Affirmations – What Are They? Journaling can be a helpful tool to manage your mental health. It involves writing down your thoughts and feelings, both good and bad. Getting things out of your head and onto paper can help you view them in a different way. Journaling can also be used to keep
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It’s fair to say there’s a lot of pressure to instantly bond with your baby. I think this comes from society and the world around us. It’s based on what we see on TV and in films. We might also hear friends, family members, work colleagues, celebrities and online influencers talking about how they bonded
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One of the most common experiences I see as a therapist for new mums is feeling like a bad mum. Negative or self-critical thoughts are something we all experience throughout our lives, and they’re very common during early motherhood. I’m sure we’ve all been there! Parenting is hard work, and we all have days that
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You’re not failing as a mum if your baby won’t sleep. You’re experiencing one of the most challenging aspects of motherhood – sleep disruption. It feels hard because it is hard. Sleep Disruption – A Universal Parenting Experience Sleep disruption and deprivation is a common and expected experience for new mums. In the first few
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If you’ve landed here because you’re a mum struggling with intrusive thoughts, I want to start by reassuring you. These thoughts, even if they include hurting your baby, do not say anything negative about you as a mother. There is a big difference between intrusive thoughts and having an active intention or desire to harm
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What is Self-Compassion? In simple terms, self-compassion is the process of turning compassion inward. It’s about being kind and understanding rather than harshly self-critical. When we’re going through something difficult, it’s offering ourselves the same gentle, nurturing support we would give others when they are struggling. It’s acknowledging our own suffering and turning towards it,
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I think most of us are familiar with the term ‘mum guilt’, the name given to the feelings of guilt women experience in relation to their children. I’m yet to meet a mother who hasn’t experienced it to some degree. I believe new mums are particularly susceptible to guilt. To counteract this, I’d like to
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If you’ve experienced trauma in any format prior to becoming a mother, you are more likely to experience part {or parts} of your motherhood journey as traumatic too. This could include your journey to conceive, your pregnancy, birth or the postpartum period. Trauma and The Window of Tolerance Trauma is not what happens to us
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Unfortunately, it’s very common for mothers and partners to be misdiagnosed with postnatal depression when the real reason behind the symptoms they’re experiencing is childhood trauma coming to the surface. What is Childhood Trauma? Childhood trauma can occur when a child witnesses or experiences overwhelming negative events. These can occur interpersonally {between people) or as
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