Hold The Mother Podcast

Today I chat with Siti about the complexities of childhood trauma. She shares personal experiences and reflections on how various forms of childhood trauma, including emotional neglect, criticism, and lack of acceptance, have impacted her life into adulthood. We delve into the nuanced ways trauma manifests in behaviours, relationships, and self-perception, discussing the fear of ...

Today's episode is all about the concept of 'mum rage,' which is characterised by intense, often inexplicable anger experienced by mothers. I unpack the two typical primary reasons behind mum rage: unmet needs and triggers of past experiences. Unmet needs can stem from the demands of childcare, work, and household management, leading to feelings of ...

Today I want to talk about the complexities of navigating Mother's Day for people who have experienced childhood trauma, specifically abuse or neglect from their mothers. My hope for you is that this episode will give you the confidence to engage with Mother's Day the way you need to, challenging societal expectations and the pressure ...

When I had my children I had no idea what 'The Fourth Trimester' was but learning about it has been so important for me and my clients. And I hope it will be as affirming for you too. The fourth trimester, which is first three months post-pregnancy, is such a significant time for mother and ...

Welcome to the latest episode of the Hold the Mother podcast. I'm Laura Hans, your host and perinatal psychotherapist, and today we're diving into the world of maternal mental health. In this episode, I'm really excited to chat with you about something super important – how we can tackle those toxic thoughts that often creep ...

This week, I delve into the concept of self compassion in motherhood and why it's so important in building resilience, reducing anxiety and depression and, ultimately, helping children model self compassion for themselves. As ever, I share personal experiences and insights, along with practical tips on how self compassion can be cultivated and maintained. Episode ...

  In this episode of 'Hold the Mother', I discuss what to consider when therapy isn't working. I explore signs of ineffective therapy, reasons it might not be working, and what you can do about it. I emphasise the importance of finding the right type of therapy, the appropriate mode of delivery, and a therapist that ...

I am trained in both Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). The beauty of this is that I can draw upon each of the modalities at different points in your therapy journey. What I use and when will depend on your treatment needs and goals. This podcast episode explores how ...

Our inner child is the child part of us that carries all the pain we felt from not having our core needs met in childhood. To a certain degree, you could say we all have an inner child. However, people who were let down more often as children will tend to have a very strong ...

According to Tommy's Pregnancy Charity, an estimated 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. Becoming pregnant after baby loss can be particularly anxiety provoking. This episode discusses my own experience of a missed miscarriage and may be triggering for some to listen to. Episode highlights: My own experience of having a miscarriage The signs of ...

It is estimated that around 30,000 women a year in the UK experience Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder after the birth of their baby. In this episode, I chat with Katie who had her first baby in lockdown and sought support to overcome the trauma she experienced. This is a story of hope and recovery, but may ...

Many of us, including mothers, can become emotionally dysregulated in everyday life. Those who have experienced a lot of stress and trauma are likely to become more dysregulated more quickly, so it’s important to know some simple, accessible ways to calm yourself down. This episode explores an exercise that teaches you how to use calming, ...

In this episode of Hold The Mother, I explore the topic of intrusive thoughts in parenthood. We all get intrusive thoughts, although some are more bothered by having them than others. Why is this? Have a listen to find out! Episode highlights: What are intrusive thoughts? Why do they bother some people more than others? ...

In this episode of Hold The Mother, I talk with Shelley Bradley-Scholey, an EMDR Consultant all about Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing Therapy. I am so passionate about this therapy after receiving it myself and feeling like it 'hit the spot' much more than other psychological therapies. Join us as we explore this life-changing therapy! ...

In this episode of Hold The Mother, I explore the topic of low self-esteem, a hugely common problem that many people experience for one reason or another. Episode highlights: What is low self-esteem? How does low self-esteem develop? My top three tips as a psychotherapist to get started on improving your self-esteem in motherhood If ...

In this episode of Hold The Mother, I talk with Jacqueline Kelly, Motherhood and Matrescence Coach, about all things Matrescence - the process of losing ourselves in motherhood! Episode highlights: What is Matrescence? The difference between Matrescence and perinatal mental illness Mum guilt and why we experience it, from Jacqueline's point of view If you ...

In this episode of Hold The Mother, I talk with Scott Mair, Father's Mental Health trainer, campaigner and advocate, about how Dad's can look after their mental health when they have a new baby. Episode highlights: The importance of antenatal education and peer support for Father's Paternal Depression and the statistics The impact on Father's ...

In this episode of Hold The Mother, I talk with J'Nel Metherell (IBCLC) about her role as a lactation consultant and her work with families, using her expert advice about breastfeeding. We also talk about the emotional difficulties that can come with breastfeeding, or not being able to for whatever reason. Episode highlights: Common breastfeeding ...

In this episode of Hold The Mother, I talk about my experience of trauma from a personal and professional perspective. I talk about what trauma is and give examples of traumatic memories that I have worked through myself, as well as those that I have helped my own client's work through. Episode highlights: Examples of ...

In today's episode of Hold The Mother, I speak to Tessa van der Vord about her role as a Mental Health Midwife and what support she offers for those in pregnancy or postnatally who are experiencing mental ill-health. Episode highlights: What support you can expect from a mental health midwife The most commonly seen mental ...

In today's episode of Hold The Mother I share some of my tips on how to support yourself as a parent from my experience as a mum of three and as a psychotherapist specialising in maternal mental health. Episode highlights: How to ask for practical support in the newborn phase and beyond Ways to ensure ...