What is Self-Blame? Self-blame is the process of attributing a stressful event or situation to yourself. Self-blaming thoughts are often self-critical and fault-finding. They can make us feel guilty, ashamed or regretful. How Does Self-Blame Impact Mums? Self-blame and motherhood are closely linked. If you have difficulty getting pregnant, it can even show up before […]
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As parents, we have a great deal of influence over our children. We shape their lives through the care we give and by modelling beliefs and behaviours, just as our lives were shaped by the people who cared for us. If we look at our own upbringing, we can probably identify certain traits our parents
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What is the Critical Voice? The critical voice has many names. You may have heard it referred to as your inner critic, judge, saboteur or superego. It can be summed up as an internal voice that is automatically negative, often characterised by blaming, shaming and harsh judgement. The tone of your critical voice usually fits
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I am trained in several modalities including Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Schema Therapy. The beauty of this is that I can draw upon a range of approaches at different points in your therapy journey. What I use and when will depend on your treatment needs and goals. Let’s explore these therapies in
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I’m back with another instalment of the self-soothing series in which I share tools and strategies to support you when you become emotionally dysregulated. Today I want to share another way of using your imagination to calm and soothe your nervous system. How Can Your Imagination Help? As I’ve mentioned before, your imagination is a
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What is Complex PTSD? The term Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (or CPTSD) describes a set of symptoms seen in many clients with a background of extensive abuse and neglect. The condition has also been called ‘a disorder of extreme stress’. According to research, the condition is often characterised by significant attachment disorder, dissociative personality,
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When you have psychological therapy, you will be asked to think about your treatment goals. The purpose of these goals is to give you a sense of direction that’s in line with your values and desires. They can also help your therapist determine whether your goals are compatible with the treatment approaches they offer. When
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What are Unhelpful Coping Strategies? We are all born with three innate survival strategies – fight, flight, and freeze. These strategies probably developed to protect us from physical danger, but we also use them to deal with psychological threat, including abuse or neglect. As children, we develop ways of coping with difficult feelings that are
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At this time of year, there is a lot of pressure, particularly on mums, to create the perfect Christmas. Where does this pressure come from? I think social media is a big factor. Mums tend to spend quite a bit of time on online where it’s easy to be influenced by the things we see.
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My ethos around working with mothers is about holding space for them, their feelings and their needs so they can feel emotionally supported. Why? Because I firmly believe mothers need mothering. The Toughest Job Although there are moments of joy, pride and happiness, being a mother is an incredibly difficult job. Alongside all the good
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